My boys go back to school in person on Monday, more offices are beginning to open back up, clients are seeking meetings and site visits again, Fall Ball baseball, basketball and box lacrosse are starting and I’ve even got concert tickets for the 18th.
Scared of going back to being busy.
To reverting to old habits of perpetual motion and saying yes (either by words or action) rather than remaining true to the habits I’ve worked hard to develop of doing less with more focus and making time to be still.
Recently I’ve been posting my schedule on Instagram. Rundowns of what my days look like. Initially I started doing this for myself; to see if I was doing too much or too little, was I being busy instead of productive and what should stay and more importantly what should go. I posted some of these as I was curious to gauge response and also because (and if you’ve been reading my stuff lately then you know this…) I’ve been fixated on HOW and not WHY lately.
Two things stood out:
On the days I “did” the most, the feedback was super positive; as if doing more was simply better in some way. I attribute this to the “hustle and grind” mentality that is everywhere and literally killing us IMO.
The days I “did” less didn’t get much response at all and in one case deemed “unimpressive” via DM. I attribute this to people simply not being OK with empty space. Which is a problem.
It’s vital to make time to be still. To carve out space for ourselves to think, contemplate, relax, breathe and slow down.
The SEAL’s say it “Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.” It’s true. I’ve been taking this pool workout class on Saturday’s and we work on just that concept. Slow down your breathing, your heart rate, take fewer strokes, focus on technique. You end up going much farther, faster.
Perhaps you’ve seen the side by side of the cyclists, or you’ve lived this experience as I have during my first Triathlon. One is peddling super-fast and giving maximum effort (me) and the other is steadily paced and looking effortless.
The cyclist with the smooth and steady cadence blows right by the “busy bee” who gets further discouraged and tries even harder to catch up only to fall further behind and burn out.
Making time to be still and accepting that having down time is ok is imperative.
For those of us with busy lives, careers, families, fomo, anxiety, insecurities and even desires to do more, accomplish more and see more, this can be really challenging.
Particularly because filling time is a distraction and we often trick ourselves into doing more things so that we can avoid spending time working on ourselves.
Here’s a link to an article I like about the power in being still.
As we re-approach “normal” be cognoscente and pay attention to what you’re allowing to creep back into your life and what you may be losing or gaining in doing so.
In Health –