I read this somewhere....I wish I could remember where and give credit so if anyone knows where "Chasing Total Life Wellness" comes from, please let me know. As soon as I read it, I jotted it down. It was one of those "Whoa...That's it! That's the thing!" moments...It completely connected with me. It's different from "Having it all"...Having it all is not a positive goal whereas chasing total life wellness seems possible, plausible AND positive. Can we strive to become the best versions of ourselves? I believe we can and that we should.
So if the goal is Total Life Wellness, it got me thinking about "What makes up my total life?"
I came up with four areas:
There are all sorts of "sub-areas" I could go into however every other thing that I thought of also fell into one of the four areas above so I capped it there and employed the KISS Method... Keep It Simple Stupid...
So then I started thinking about what I'm doing with my time. "Am I spending my time on chasing total life wellness or wasting it?"
The truth is that I'm still wasting a bunch of time, however I'm getting better. I do not have each of these four areas of my life in total wellness. That's why I'm chasing it....And I imagine I always will be. However, I'm learning to enjoy the chase; the journey more.
I still have trouble prioritizing. I still habitually read the NY Post every morning event though I know it's crap and a waste of time. I still spend some money I shouldn't. I still beat myself up over little things that don't matter...I still say and do things that I shouldn't. I still say "Yes" to more things than I'd like and not enough "No" to things that don't serve my needs and goals. I still need to go thru a 45 min morning routine just to be able to function on a daily basis that makes me feel somewhat "normal".
I'm a big fan of Mark Manson from even before he wrote "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*@k" and wanted to share a piece he wrote with you that's pretty spot on - I put the link below. Check it out. Hope it's helpful.
Let's get to this week's Midlife Male Podcast...
I've got P.J. Nestler joining me. P.J. is the Director of Performance at XPT, Extreme Performance Training. If you are not familiar check out XPTlife.com and listen to the rest of this podcast, because P.J. is going to fill you in on what XPT life is all about. First, let me tell you a little bit about XPT and my experience with it. I got introduced to XPT through a buddy of mine named Justin Singer, he owns Mechanix Calisthenics in Houston, Texas. He is also a certified XPT coach. He introduced me to P.J. when P.J. was in town, we did a breath work class together. We actually hung out with Rob O'Neill, The Navy Seal who took down Osama Bin Laden and is the author of the The Operator as well, had some good times together.
XPT was founded by Laird Hamilton and Gabby Reece. If you think about the quintessential midlife male you've got to talk about Laird Hamilton. Big wave surfer, father, husband, entrepreneur, risk-taker, super fit guy, super spiritual guy, awesome stuff. Pick up his new book LIFERIDER and check out more on Laird at XPTlife.com.
Let's talk a little bit about P.J. too, because he's going to fill us in on XPT, his philosophy, what all this stuff means. He is a human performance specialist with over a decade of experience preparing top athletes for competition. His life mission is to help athletes, coaches, and guys like us realize their true potential. He's been a leader in sports performance training for years, he's worked with dozens of athletes from the NFL, NHL, Major League Baseball, over 100 fighters including multiple Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu world champions, top 10 ranked UFC fighters. He is out there raising the bar for fitness and lifestyle professionals with XPT.
XPT is about pushing your body to re adapt. This is a program that's rooted in dynamic stressors and human adaptation. The idea being to maintain a well-balanced body and mind. It's a lifestyle. If you want to get out there and go paddle boarding, go do it. If you want to swim underwater holding dumbbells, go do it.
The idea with XPT, and what Laird Hamilton says, is “Don't be a liability”. Be flexible enough to be able to jump into any new activity presented to you and forget any limitations or negative construct holding you back. And that's how you live. Sustainable, longevity-based, performance-based fitness. The ability to get up and do what you need to do, when you need to do it, when you want to do it. It's about breathing, it's about moving, it's about recovering.
My personal regimen right now, consists of a lot of XPT. Constantly mixing it up, trying different things, moving a little bit better. Listening to my body, recovering a little smarter. As I get older I start to realize what's most important, and that's feeling good, having fun, being able to do the things that I want to do.
So let's get into this XPT life, XPT lifestyle story, learn a little bit more about it and learn more about P.J. Nestler, here on the Midlife Male Podcast.